Curves. No Curves. Alright.

There are myths that suggest that curvy women giving birth is easier and natural compared to women with no curves/smaller curves. However, I know of many curvy women who had to go through a caesarean section. Curves do not determine how women give birth. Curves do not define the perfect body and many factors that revolve around women. Enjoy this piece of writing as I discuss the stigma associated to female curves and more.

Every woman is woman enough with or without curves. I like to believe and see beauty in all shapes women transform. Some women naturally have curves while some must squad themselves into curves. They squad to get bigger buttocks and stretch to widen their hips. I have no problem with what women do to shape their bodies. It just matters to me that they do it for themselves and that it makes them happy rather than doing it to please those who undervalue them. Initially, women curves depend on their genetic component and no one has control over it. I mentioned this in the last article, and we need to make peace with these genetics’ facts. We cannot belittle women for these naturals.

The curvier you are the more woman you are. I think is such an absurd thing to believe. Our bodies make up only one part of human beings out of three; The Body, The Mind and The Soul. Our minds and souls wire our genders as much as our bodies are structured. However, our physiques also do not determine if we would be more woman than other females and so do our minds and souls. It is petty of us to focus impressions entirely on the body. How can our bodies display our entire beauty? Our bodies cannot be an automatic card to the treatment we receive. Genetics define bodies, for that matter. Imagine all the standards we make women believe about their figures. 

The "Coca-Cola, Hourglass, Figure Eight" are society's nicknames for curvy women. Often these women are overly admired and sexualized to a despicable extent.

It is disturbing to me for someone to start a conversation with my butt as the introduction. How do we normalize statements such as “Your butt is bigger” or “Uhm, where is your butt?” before being greeted. I feel sexualized during such incidents and it is uncomfortable. I feel harassed and I hate that so much focus is expressed towards my curves than how I am doing as an entire person. I was at a service station one morning and the way almost every man looked and spoke to me was with harassment; asking for my number, wanting to touch and take pictures with me and expressing all sorts of interests towards me. I could hear some mumblings about my body; my hips, my butt you name it. These were sober adults some looking youthful and some older. However, my point is they are fully-grown man who know what is wrong and right. My first thoughts were random questions to myself on what triggers these men to behave publicly insane. What is wrong with these men? They cannot contain themselves or their thoughts. They are disrespectful and harassing. I do not want such uncalled-for behaviour as a curvy or attractive woman. I demand to be respected and handled with my consent. No one is entitled to express sexual desires freely towards me, just because my body appears attractive.

The people close to me that keep reminding me of how narrow my hips are and how flat my butt is are equally as annoying as the men from the service station. I have no control over the kind of hips and butt my body forms and it surely does not matter that I am not curvy. I think these habits and petty comments are disgusting and unacceptable. They devalue women. Of course, beauty is subjective but women who do not meet your beauty standards meet another’s and their own. There is no need to devalue woman who do not fit common societal preferences. These women matter and should be appreciated as they are. We become too invested in appearances and forget about health and self-esteem. If I am not curvy and healthy, that is enough. If I go on and train, that should be my personal decision. If I am curvy and have no flat tummy, it should be my decision to flatten it or lose weight. Furthermore, if I feel comfortable in my choice of clothing and I am healthy and fit, it should be okay. Our body appearances should only be a problem if they deteriorate our physical, mental and sexual or whatever health it may be. Our bodies are just bodies and they don't determine how we are to be treated or perceived. 

Some men are curvier than the average women are, but no one tells them they are less manly than other men are and vice versa. Do you see where I am getting here? Exactly. Curves do not determine if one is woman or human enough.