Every woman is woman enough with or without curves. I like to believe
and see beauty in all shapes women transform. Some women naturally have curves
while some must squad themselves into curves. They squad to get bigger buttocks
and stretch to widen their hips. I have no problem with what women do to shape
their bodies. It just matters to me that they do it for themselves and that it
makes them happy rather than doing it to please those who undervalue them.
Initially, women curves depend on their genetic component and no one has
control over it. I mentioned this in the last article, and we need to make
peace with these genetics’ facts. We cannot belittle women for these naturals.
The curvier you are the more woman you are. I think is such an absurd
thing to believe. Our bodies make up only one part of human beings out of
three; The Body, The Mind and The Soul. Our minds and souls wire our genders as
much as our bodies are structured. However, our physiques also do not determine
if we would be more woman than other females and so do our minds and souls. It
is petty of us to focus impressions entirely on the body. How can our bodies
display our entire beauty? Our bodies cannot be an automatic card to the treatment
we receive. Genetics define bodies, for that matter. Imagine all the standards
we make women believe about their figures.
The "Coca-Cola, Hourglass, Figure Eight" are society's nicknames for curvy women. Often these women are overly admired and sexualized to a despicable extent.
The "Coca-Cola, Hourglass, Figure Eight" are society's nicknames for curvy women. Often these women are overly admired and sexualized to a despicable extent.
It is disturbing to me for someone to start a conversation with my butt
as the introduction. How do we normalize statements such as “Your butt is
bigger” or “Uhm, where is your butt?” before being greeted. I feel sexualized
during such incidents and it is uncomfortable. I feel harassed and I hate that so
much focus is expressed towards my curves than how I am doing as an entire
person. I was at a service station one morning and the way almost every man
looked and spoke to me was with harassment; asking for my number, wanting to
touch and take pictures with me and expressing all sorts of interests towards
me. I could hear some mumblings about my body; my hips, my butt you name it.
These were sober adults some looking youthful and some older. However, my point
is they are fully-grown man who know what is wrong and right. My first thoughts
were random questions to myself on what triggers these men to behave publicly insane.
What is wrong with these men? They cannot contain themselves or their thoughts.
They are disrespectful and harassing. I do not want such uncalled-for behaviour
as a curvy or attractive woman. I demand to be respected and handled with my
consent. No one is entitled to express sexual desires freely towards me, just
because my body appears attractive.
The people close to me that keep reminding me of how narrow my hips are and how flat my butt is are equally as annoying as the men from the service station. I have no control over the kind of hips and butt my body forms and it surely does not matter that I am not curvy. I think these habits and petty comments are disgusting and unacceptable. They devalue women. Of course, beauty is subjective but women who do not meet your beauty standards meet another’s and their own. There is no need to devalue woman who do not fit common societal preferences. These women matter and should be appreciated as they are. We become too invested in appearances and forget about health and self-esteem. If I am not curvy and healthy, that is enough. If I go on and train, that should be my personal decision. If I am curvy and have no flat tummy, it should be my decision to flatten it or lose weight. Furthermore, if I feel comfortable in my choice of clothing and I am healthy and fit, it should be okay. Our body appearances should only be a problem if they deteriorate our physical, mental and sexual or whatever health it may be. Our bodies are just bodies and they don't determine how we are to be treated or perceived.
Some men are curvier than the average women are, but no one tells them they are less manly than other men are and vice versa. Do you see where I am getting here? Exactly. Curves do not determine if one is woman or human enough.
2 comments:
Some great motivation😘😘to love my body
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