Every person’s
DNA component is unique which means that the way our bodies respond to development,
functioning, growth and reproduction differs. This is why I think there is no
such thing as acceptable breasts, in terms of size nor shape. I think what
matters is that we have healthy breasts, no lumps, cancer or anything foreign
and that our breasts do not interfere with our day-to-day functioning. It is
such a ridicule thing to put an acceptable size, shape or appearance to
breasts. It is even worse to expect women to wear socially acceptable clothing,
let alone bras.
I have had to
change my bra size about 3 times in a recent year. My bust changed not yet my
cup size increased strangely. I thought of it as weird especially due to having
a relatively slim body. This is exactly what I think is wrong in the way we
handle our body changes. We cannot entirely control how the growth happens but
we can control how we feel about it. There is no standard size of breasts and
the growth I experienced is perfectly normal. It does not matter if I am a size
6 with a D cup or a size 14 with an A cup. It does not matter what type of bra I
wear, it just matters that I am comfortable in it. I do not even have to wear a
bra if I prefer and no one should ridicule me for it.
Many people
around us evidently observe the changes that happened and still happen to our
breasts as women. This may be absurd and it starts very early in our lives. They
ask if later in adolescence if you have started to engage in sexual intercourse
because of a certain change in your breasts. They ask if you have a child like
the size of my breasts show pregnancy. They ask if you are sick when the breast
seem smaller. You get the stares when you show cleavage. They ask why the
nipples are pointy. It is as if being a woman and having breasts is
provocative to society.
Women should not have to worry about being ridiculed for the way their breasts appear. They do not have to worry about having saggy, huge or tiny breasts. A woman should not have to worry about finding the perfect bra. She does not need a push up bra, padded bra or a bra at all. She may want one and it is up to her. Its absence does not demoralize her. The same way she should not be demoralized for showing cleavage or clothing that exposes her breasts or a part of her breasts.
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Amazing, and this are the things that control some women out there, they feel low Self-confidence or esteem when they see their breast sogy and looking at other women with straight up round breast.
Some are even automatically judged on how they look, wether its big or small that doesn't matter and we as women should take our pride and uplift our selves and stand strong.
Hi Beata
I resonate with you. These practices are not good and no one should be belittled because of their appearance. Let's share the read with people in our circles and actively have these conversations to instill confidence/esteem in other women.
Very good piece indeed. I think this should be a must read for all the lady's out there. Everyone realy needs to realise this.
Oh wow, thank. I appreciate it so much. I guess that's why we need to share the blog with as many people as possible to make sure many people especially women have a read. 😃
This is a very good piece, I will definitely share.
Myself I battled with how my breast is for a very long time and affected my self-confidence tremendously. Became even bad when close friends would always ask "why are breast not perky, why are they fallen?"
I would be embarrassed at first, until one day I decided that it doesn't matter what other people think of my breasts but me. And since then I wear a bra when I feel like it
Strange how some men (in this case me) can be ignorant about this perspective, oftentimes you just assume things you do not know. In this case, most assumption is the ladies are flaunting their endowment not realizing that they do not have control over the appearance of their body shape or features. Thank you Pahukeni for sharing this view. I believe the answer to this challenge is in the hands of women, raising young ones to have this understanding especially the male child will go along way to change the narrative. Good read.
I love these... This is absolutely a must read. Most of women feel anxious about how their bodies appear in public and most especially their breast. As women we care about breast size and how pointy or soggy they are, which actually shouldn't be the case at all. Let's learn to be comfident with our body. Hoping to get more of this type of writing....
Hey Amélia, thank you for reading. I'm so glad that you also shared your experiences on body image stigma. I hope all women get the confidence to just be content. Thanks for sharing. Subscribe and come back for another read.
Thank you for reading the articles. I'm glad it twisted your way of understanding. The power to beat this is in all of us including men. We all can change our thinkings and reactions. Do come back for another read as we explore related topics. Subscribe and share.
Hi, I'm so amazed that you resonate with me. Let's get that confidence in ourselves and other women. You may subscribe to have more reads. Don't forget to spread the word.
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